Emotional Pituitary Contributor
When you encounter challenges, you probably think the solution is to power through. You don’t use brute force, but instead, analyze who has the power and control in this situation. You look for a way to leverage that power to create a solution. Although you are surprisingly good at this process, don’t discount your intuition to create an equally good solution.
Intuition is an unconscious gift of your design. The definition intuition is a keen and quick insight; a direct perception of truth, independent of any reasoning process; immediate comprehension. Others seem to minimize your intuition by demanding data, facts, and logic. Intuition doesn’t always arrive with all the facts, but doubting your intuitive “knowing” has lead you to make poor choices.
You easily perceive value in people, ideas, organizations, and projects. Not only can you sense their inherent value, but you can also draw it out. By creating strategies, organizing details, and planning you guide people along the path.
Acts of Service is likely your primary love language. When you love your job, you go all out and perform to the highest of your ability. If you love your clients, you over-deliver and do the best work you possibly can. In loving relationships, you feel compelled to give before they even ask. However, in self-care (showing love to yourself) you are challenged with negative self-talk. Why does it take so much effort to treat yourself the way you treat others? Why is there hesitation or a disconnect in doing things for you?
Because you want to serve others, you may wonder if asking for what you need is acceptable. Boundaries are a healthy part of every relationship, and you have been hurt when your boundaries have been crossed. Have you thoroughly explained your boundaries? Or does it feel unloving to maintain boundaries? If they are not explained and agreed upon in a relationship it will always cause disappointment.
Your strong work ethic is complimented by a drive to simplify tasks and create systems. You push yourself into working long hours on important projects, which cause overwhelm and isolation. If others don’t recognize your hard work it can make you feel insignificant. Your protective response is to close off or get out. Can you see a pattern of walking away from people, jobs, opportunities, or passions? Do you leave them before they leave you?
It does not have to be this way! When you identify essential tasks, try to ask yourself, “Who in my circle is capable of addressing this?” While relinquishing control may not be your first instinct, allowing others to play their part gives them a sense of belonging. Each Endotype has is designed with unique strengths. When you connect people to tasks they’re uniquely suited for, it takes the burden away from you. It also forges a powerful sense of community and everyone can feel like a hero.
Why then is this such a challenge for you? Delegation is a problem if you wrap up who you are in what you do or how well you do it. Who are you separate from what you do? Doing less may create anxiety or make you nervous because it makes you question who you are. You are left with two choices: continue to push yourself until you are drowning in anxiety and isolation, or you can begin to understand your unique design. When you know who you have been designed to be, you will no longer need to prove it to anyone.
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You may just get the permission you need to be YOU.